Trust, without it, you have nothing…

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Dear Neighbors,

Asia, Africa, United Kingdom, Europe, Holland, Rotterdam, your neighborhood, in your street. People! Everywhere we look, we see people. All kinds of people. Young, old, beautiful, ugly, strong, weak, you name it.

But why is it that, with all these feet walking around, the only one you can really trust, is those you see when you look down?

Trust, maybe it’s the most powerful word there is. Without it, you have nothing. If you’re in a relationship, it’s the trust that keeps you together. Not even the love, without trust, your relationship is doomed to fail. In business,  If you’re planning on building an Empire with a partner you don’t trust. You might as well start giving your money away for free, because believe me, your guts feeling says it all.

Ladies, have you ever stand in line at a party, and the same guys who were tryna jump all over you just to get in, were the ones who try to holla at you in the club, when their ass is all comfortable? Terrible, terrible, terrible! These guys must think you’re dumb and visually impaired. How can i ever trust you to have my back, if at the doors you left me behind it?

Guys, have you ever had a girlfriend who slept with your best friend? TERRIBLE!. I see why they say, these hoes ain’t loyal, because for real, a lot of girls act like they are about to die tomorrow. Chill bitch.

Let’s not forget about the so called BF’s. Must stand for Best Fakers, cause the number of fake friends is taking over best friends. People have the ability to laugh in your face and plan something evil against you at the same time.

Either in a relationship, or at work, maybe you invite them at your house, everywhere you look, you see people. Some you know, some you think you know, some you don’t wanna know and a lot you don’t know at all. All these people are looking for something. They all have the same goal. Getting there! Where that is? I really don’t know, but people are “selling” their souls for it. Keep in mind neighbors, that they will try to do it behind your back!

If you ask me: ‘You must always forgive someone who breaks your trust, but you should sure never forget it, let alone trust this person again!’

I will end this blog with an african saying:

‘We start as fools and become wise through experience’

Love… BellaThe1

 

 

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Sorry…

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Dear Neighbors,

I’m sorry, i’m really, really sorry. We all know these words, by using them ourselves or as an apology from someone. Someone who just did something to be sorry about.

Saying you’re sorry, does not take away the pain. It does not make the “mistake” disappear. I use quotation stabbing for the word mistake, because is it really a mistake?

If you hit me by accident or stand on my feet without noticing and you say ‘i’m sorry’, then we’re cool, but don’t be sorry for something you did on purpose. If you’re cheating on me for example, sorry is the last word i want to hear coming out of your lying mouth. You sure weren’t sorry at the moment you was enjoying your cheating ass.

If you promise me something and you didn’t come true, sorry is also out of option. Don’t you know the meaning of a promise? I will explain it to you:

Promise:

‘A declaration assuring that one will or will not do something; A VOW

You COMMIT yourself in doing something (or not) for another!!

Why should you be sorry for doing something, which you already knew is hurtful to another person. Or did you had a small amnesia?

People who know that their action is gonna cause pain to someone, are not really sorry. Yes, sorry because they got caught. So in that case, you’re sorry to yourself i guess.

So next time, if you are planing to just “being sorry”, ask yourself:

Would I be okay with it? Cause remember…

 

What goes around…

 

Love… BellaThe1

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Your First time..

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Dear Neighbors,

Do you remember “IT”? With “it”i mean IT!

Your first time…

How is it that when someone ask me: Do you remember that time we blablabla? I’m like uhmmm No i really don’t, but if you ask me about my first time,…. i can tell you the when, with who (obviously lol) and the PAIN i felt. That shit is unforgettable.

God created the female body as weird as could be. How is it that the same spot, you can get so much joy from, can hurt so bad? I’ve seen some jokes online about the fact that we suffer more because of the Adam and Eve adventure, but come on! I didn’t ask Eve to be greedy with the apple.
Why do we all have to suffer from that? Others say that the female body is made to manage more pain, simple because a man couldn’t handle it. I can see why they say that, cause: ‘Have you ever looked at a man who’s sick?’ It’s like the dude is dying, for real no joke (crybabies).

Anyway, about the first time. The first time for a man is the most simple task he will get in life. It mostly happens on an early age, with a female who is a few years older. The guy will do his clumsy thing for 30 seconds and voila, he just lost his virginity.

For females on the other hand the interaction takes a lot more effort. I will not tell you all the details about what happens with the female body parts, but i will tell you: It’s an unpleasant happening. When i lost my virginity at the age of 18, all i was thinking at that moment was: ‘Are we done yet?’ I don’t know about other females but my first time was NOT pleasant, at all!! It was the love that kept me there, or else i would probably be gone with the wind, in 2 seconds.

I think the first time, for all females, should really be with someone you love, cause you might get a little “traumatized” by it. I’m not trying to scare the Virgins off, not at all, cause the first time will be the first step to a whole new adventure. So don’t worry, it might not feel great at first….

 

But it WILL get better. 😉

 

Love… BellaThe1

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What Happened to? #1

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Dear Neighbors,

What happened to late night phone calls and going on dates? It has become something that only the older generation does and not even all of them.

Guys have no shame at their game lately. I’m talking about mostly the younger men. When you start talking to a boy nowadays they don’t say: Hey when are we going on a date? Instead they have the audacity to say: When are we gonna chill? So you would be like okay nice, we can chill. What do you wanna do? At least, 8 out of the 10 times the answer will be: Come over at your house. Do you men study that phrase? Girls, you already know that’s like the baddest way to get to know each other. Boys don’t wanna come over at your place, to be chitchatting, obviously (sorry guys, let’s be honest).

The way men keep in touch with women these days is also ridiculous. Most conversations you have will be on WhatsApp. I think i even broke up with a boyfriend once, trough WhatsApp, because the dude didn’t know how to pick up his phone. It’s also because of this App that the late night phone calls are fading away. Instead of talking on the phone till 3 a.m. we are chatting till morning. The hilarious part about this is that, it’s not because guys these days don’t like talking on the phone, but because they don’t have credits to call your ass. Plus talking on the phone means he can’t chat on whatsapp with others at that moment. WhatsApp is a bad way to communicate with one and other. Why? Because you often get misunderstood. Like when you tell someone you’re not interested and what they understand is: ‘I would like you, to be my new stalker.’
With that said, i’d like to give you guys some advice:
1: ‘If you like a girl, i mean really like her, don’t forget the dates. It shows you’re interested in getting to know her. Take a girl out for something to drink or for dinner. Don’t be cheap!

2: Make sure you also have the phone calls, especially the late nights. Girls love that, could be just to hear where your ass is at. If you don’t have credits make sure you both got an App where you can call for free, like Viber (Damn technology ;-)).

Of course there are more tips, but that’s for another blogpost. I tell you guys, such small things can keep a woman happy and not all up in your “business”, and we all know…

 

You don’t want THAT.‘ 🙂

 

Love… Bellathe1

 

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Do all women cheat?

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Dear Neighbors,

Do all women cheat?

Ask a guy and the answer will bE, YES! Ask a women and the answer will be an absolutely: NO! Of course women are not gonna admit that they cheat. We studied the guys we used to date: ‘If you’re girl catches you, deny, deny, deny!’ You guys did too many shaggy on us, with the “it wasn’t me”.

Now the “students” are getting smarter than their teachers and it pisses the boys off!

Who would have thought that women will become better cheaters than men? I’m saying better because it’s not that women cheat more, but we can do it definitely better. If a woman cheat, there is most certainly something wrong with your relationship. It takes more for a woman to be cheating on their man, because women mostly cheat with someone they created feelings for. I personally don’t think all women cheat,… on every man. Attention, i said: ‘on every man’.

Like i said before, it take a lot more for a woman to be cheating on their man. Of course you have the “professional cheaters” among us women who made it a profession to cheat, but that’s another story. Earlier it was not likely for a woman to cheat, especially if you didn’t want to scary the guys away. Back then hoes were not as popular as they are now. Now you see the hoes getting wifed up and guys leaving their “home” for them. ‘You still wonder why you get cheated on guys?

If you are asking me if all women cheat, i will say that it might be possible. Maybe there are some women who never cheated, who can tell? Admitting that you did something wrong, is something mankind will always have a problem with. You might be thinking that i’m a big cheater now, but i have to disappoint you guys :-). I’m totally against cheating. I admit i did it once, with my first boyfriend. I’m not proud of it, but it made me see that it was something i didn’t like and never want to do again.

I feel like everybody is cheating on each other nowadays. You can’t trust a single soul on this, i can promise you that. With everybody playing so reckless with each others hearts, it makes me wonder:

 

‘Does it still matter if you cheat?’

 

Love… BellaThe1

 

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Hard-of-hearing!

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Dear Neighbors,

I’m really getting annoyed with the fact that, ‘it’s always the ugliest guy in the room who got the balls to talk to pretty ladies‘. I’m trying to figure this shit out, because don’t you ugly guys get tired of getting “the look”, i mean that nasty look like Nicki Minaj can give you. I don’t know what’s fun about being rejected all the time, but i do know:

‘Rejection gives men some kind of strength to keep on trying.’

Rejection is awful as well for men as for women, we women get rejected too sometimes. Could be that the boy you like is not interested in you. What can you do? Nothing, move on! I think it’s easier for men to reject a woman, cause there are too many women on earth anyway.

Too bad there are men who can’t take a rejection. All women have met them: The guys who call you names after you give them the “look” or a No. It’s funny how fast you can turn from a pretty lady into a “ho” in two seconds.

Then you have guys who think they are “the shit”, but actually look like SHIT. I’m tired of telling guys that they are not my type. I say this when i don’t want to hurt that persons feelings, but this is not working anymore, so what can i do?

– If i’m trying to get rid of ‘em the nice way, they keep trying.

– If i’m ditching them the hard way, they’ll try even harder!!

– If you block them on your phone, they FUCKING GET ANOTHER NUMBER.

It’s really frustrating sometimes, cause what else can you do?

I know we women love to play hard to get, but this “hard to get game” women play, we play that on pretty boys. We do this, just to let them know, they can’t get all women that easy, with their pretty faces. Now this shit is obviously getting misunderstood by ugly boys.

Men, you look stupid trying to persuade a woman to date you, even when she told you she doesn’t want you. Don’t you got love for yourself? Like we say in dutch: “Every little pot has a fitting lid.” So i guess there is also hope for you.

Unfortunately it’s always the ugly guys who act “hard-of-hearing” and not

 

the ONE you actually want.

 

Love… BellaThe1

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Safe Sex!!

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Dear Neighbours,

Sex is one of the best things that exists, yet it can also be one of the most dangerous activity for mankind. I’m not talking about the different dangerous sex postitions you can use in the bedroom, but what i’m trying to say is:

‘Sex can literally kill you.’

People, especially men, don’t like to wear condoms during sex. It doesn’t feel natural, is the excuse they use. I get it, the sex doesn’t feels the same as whiteout a condom. For example: The uncomfortable dry feeling you get after a few bumps! Not to mention that moment when you have to bring up the condom, that’s an awkward moment too, don’t you think? Shit gets real if you’re both pretty horny and decide to hit it more than once. This doesn’t only makes the sex a bit annoying, but also expensive.

It’s mostly men who decide not to use a condom, women can go along because they don’t want to ruin the moment and because they could be afraid to demand it. What women don’t know, is that when you clearly let a boy know that there will be no hitting it without protection, most guys will not argue against it. They are happy there will be some action anyway. ‘Men, if a woman says she doesn’t want to use a condom, while you guys are not in a relationship, i think you should get the hell away from that pussy. Either there’s already something nasty “sailing around” over there, or she’s trying to baby trap your ass.’

Really guys, a STD is something you can get so easily these days, because people are not that careful anymore. If all STD’s were curable i could understand that people would take a risk, but what if someone gives you HIV or another incurable disease? This does not only means you CAN’T and SHOULDN’t have unprotected sex EVER again, but it also means:
You’re a death men walking‘.

 

Think about it and when you do, take a look at www.durex.com.

 

‘You better be safe than sorry…’

 

Love… BellaThe1

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What’s our status?

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Dear Neighbours,

In my previous blog i told you guys about how the youth has gone wild. Since there is a lot to say about this subject, today i want to write about the following: ‘When can you assume you’re in a relationship?

So there are a lot of boys who made it a sport to screw as many girls as possible. The reason they can do this, is because girls let them. With ‘let them’ i mean: ‘Girls are making it possible for them boys to screw a lot of girls,‘ period. Boys often, keep themselves busy with different girls at the same time. It’s easy to have contact with all these girls, true social media and with the smartphones these days. Who can blame them? Society makes it possible. Earlier there was only MSN Messenger and PP2G, we didn’t have whatsapp, snapchat, instagram and all it’s side-apps. Back then, the boys and girls in your hood where the shit for you. But now…..

‘You can have a girl (boy) in every Port.’

Back to the “let them’ part. Boys love to keep a girl on the low.

1: They don’t want to wake up hungry hyena’s and,

2: They don’t want the other side-bitches to know about each other.

The excuse they give these girls, is that they don’t want to be bound yet, but you may NOT sleep with other men.

Please!! This is for all the guys who ever suggested this to a girl. Look in the mirror and imagine a girl suggesting YOU such a ridiculous demand. Are you guys on drugs or something? What kinda bullshit is that? So you wanna sleep at my house, eat the food i prepare for you, use my water to clean ya ass, eat all my groceries and watch sports on MY TELEVISION! Yet here you are, giving me some bullshit about not being ready to bound, yet?! Expecting me to be loyal while you can be a Duracell bunny?!

Well this is what i think about this situation:

‘If your ass is staying at my house a few times a week and you`re eating my food, you’re feeling comfortable enough to be farting around me all the time and if we AT LEAST fuck once a week. Then bitch…
WE ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP!‘ 🙂

Love… BellaThe1

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‘Hate is the new Love’

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Dear Neighbours,

‘Hate is the new love’, these days. Not only females are competing with each other, but the men too! ‘Guys, I thought you were raised better than that?!’ Too bad, you aren’t.

Men love to post material things on Social media. You should think it’s only to impress the ladies, but guess again. Men do enjoy to brag about what they have or what they are, just to show their “brothers”. You have the right to brag about things you possess, because you worked hard for it. Even if you didn’t worked for it at all (you need to teach me that trick tho), as long as you keep it respectful and don’t go Biggie and Pac, it’s okay. But don’t come bragging with borrowed stuff, because that’s so 2002. Guys why should a normal girl be interested in a few euro’s that fits in your hands??? Boy do you got a house or a car?

We female love to compete with our beauty and “sexyness”. The question is… who are we doing this for? Is it for yourself, because you want to feel better? Or is it for a man to notice you (because men do have a lot to choose from, out there)? It could be just to poke “that bitch” her eye`s out… #chuckle. Either way we are doing it, and we are doing it very GOOD.

I can’t imagine being a guy right now. (#thinking) What kind of positions had I put myself in, with all these “candies” out there?’ It’s like beautiful females are rising from ashes everywhere, so it’s almost impossible not to compete with each other. Blame society, one got more, other got less and others stays in the middle. Everything is getting better and prettier and people want to stay up to date. With all the choices we have these days, it’s likely there will be some competition. The world is getting overwhelmed with STUFF and PEOPLE. It’s getting ballistic, I’m telling you guys.

People need to just chill. Don’t hate! If someone haves something you want, go get something better. If someone looks hotter than you, then jump your ass into the gym A.S.A.P. What I wanna share with ya’ll, is: Don’t be intimidated by one and other. If you want something, you work for it! As long as you believe in yourself and you show THAT to the world…

 

‘There will be no place for hate, only LOVE’!

 

Love… BellaThe1

 

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Catfish!

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Dear Neighbours,

Everybody knows what the word catfish means ‘Someone who pretends to be someone/something they’re not’. There really are a lot of “catfishes” on social media nowadays, I must be honest.

We girls will never feel pretty enough when we go natural. That’s why we put on make-up or have cosmetic surgery. We weave our hair and put on fake nails. We do all those things just to look pretty on the outside. We post that 1 picture, out of a dozen, which we think is the cutest and sexiest. Because that’s clearly what’s getting the most likes nowadays. Unfortunately it’s not always what it seems in real life. So yes, people are accusing one other of “catfishing”. But after some good thinking about this subject, I realized: Everybody is a catfish!

Did you realized that people are faking it at their jobs, in stores, at schools and most of all in their relationships. I want to talk to you about catfishing within relationships. Nowadays we mostly meet people online. Thank you to the founders of social media, because now we get to meet people we probably never would have met, if it wasn’t for them. So online you see beautiful pictures, you like each other and 1 of you will make a first move into further contact. You agree to meet, hang out, kiss and bla bla bla you end up in a relationship.

At first everything is fun and you really enjoy each other. He looks the same and she looks even better than online. After you decide to sleep together, their will be some changes.

Women:

First she becomes sloppy. She decides to “forget” a panty at your house. After waking up together a few times, she doesn’t look that pretty anymore in the mornings. Instead of her beautiful hair falling down her cheek, she’s wearing a scarf wrapped around her head, and her face looks different too.

Men:

Is that a little belly coming up??? Men get sloppy in relationships too. It’s like their interest in looking fabulous gets blown away with the wind. They also stop putting efforts in doing nice things, like taking you to dinner or to the movies. And here you are, thinking you would see the world with this guy.

A few months later you got a women who’s laxity is clearly showing (she’s not that princess anymore) and a man who looks far from mr. Right. Hold on, that’s not what you’ve “signed up” for. Who is this person? Why is it that in most relationships (not all!!) we are at first very attractive and lovely, but after a couple of months we become lax and too comfortable and show our “real face”?

I think that’s also: “Someone who pretends to be someone/something they’re not” (catfish). Often we don’t even realize our pretending is the reason why..

..we lose each other.

Love… BellaThe1

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