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Bid voor jezelf..

Beste Buren,

Vluchtelingen, schietpartijen, terrorisme, politiek, spelletjes, mensenlevens, grenzen! Er zijn grenzen mensen, en met mensen bedoel ik jullie allemaal. Van mijn Turkse buurman naar Obama tot de IS.

Er zijn grenzen, maar waar trekken we die?

Duizenden vluchtelingen die jaarlijks de keus maken om de reis des doods te maken, de reis des doods naar het land die uitkomsten biedt.

Jarenlang is er al oorlog, de Russische oorlog, de jaren lange oorlog tussen India en Pakistan in Kashmir en dan niet te vergeten, de drugsoorlog in Colombia. Al deze oorlogen hebben 1 ding gemeen: Hebzucht! Hebzucht van mannen die zich leiders noemen. De regering die vaalt in zijn taak: het besturen van een land. Dit zorgt voor duizenden mensen die elders een thuis gaan zoeken. Nu komt samen met de vluchtelingen, ook de oorlog dichterbij en heerst er paniek. Nederlanders bidden voor Frankrijk. Facebook wordt ermee overgoten, maar waar jullie echt voor moeten bidden, is voor Nederland.

Bid voor jezelf en je naasten, bid voor je buurman en voor de trambestuurder die je naar jou plaats van bestemming brengt. Bid voor onze onschuldige kinderen die nog niks van de wereld hebben gezien. Bid dat Premier Rutte en z’n aanhang de juiste keuzes maken. Keuzes waar wij een keer wat aan hebben.

Terrorisme wordt in de naam van God uitgevoerd. Schandalig! Hoe kan je de naam van de schepper noemen, wanneer je zijn creaties van de wereld veegt?

Frankrijk heeft het geweten afgelopen vrijdag. Tientallen onschuldige mensen, die vrijdagochtend niets vermoedend de deur uit zijn gegaan en nooit meer terugkeren naar hun huis. Nu beginnen de buurlanden zich wel zorgen te maken, want er zit geen zee en duizenden kilometers meer tussen.

Ik maak me zorgen. Stel dat…

Nederland is goed in het opvangen van vluchtelingen, maar wie vangt ons op wanneer de IS ook in Nederland begint te terroriseren?

Love… BellaThe1

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Dear Neighbors,

Asia, Africa, United Kingdom, Europe, Holland, Rotterdam, your neighborhood, in your street. People! Everywhere we look, we see people. All kinds of people. Young, old, beautiful, ugly, strong, weak, you name it.

But why is it that, with all these feet walking around, the only one you can really trust, is those you see when you look down?

Trust, maybe it’s the most powerful word there is. Without it, you have nothing. If you’re in a relationship, it’s the trust that keeps you together. Not even the love, without trust, your relationship is doomed to fail. In business,  If you’re planning on building an Empire with a partner you don’t trust. You might as well start giving your money away for free, because believe me, your guts feeling says it all.

Ladies, have you ever stand in line at a party, and the same guys who were tryna jump all over you just to get in, were the ones who try to holla at you in the club, when their ass is all comfortable? Terrible, terrible, terrible! These guys must think you’re dumb and visually impaired. How can i ever trust you to have my back, if at the doors you left me behind it?

Guys, have you ever had a girlfriend who slept with your best friend? TERRIBLE!. I see why they say, these hoes ain’t loyal, because for real, a lot of girls act like they are about to die tomorrow. Chill bitch.

Let’s not forget about the so called BF’s. Must stand for Best Fakers, cause the number of fake friends is taking over best friends. People have the ability to laugh in your face and plan something evil against you at the same time.

Either in a relationship, or at work, maybe you invite them at your house, everywhere you look, you see people. Some you know, some you think you know, some you don’t wanna know and a lot you don’t know at all. All these people are looking for something. They all have the same goal. Getting there! Where that is? I really don’t know, but people are “selling” their souls for it. Keep in mind neighbors, that they will try to do it behind your back!

If you ask me: ‘You must always forgive someone who breaks your trust, but you should sure never forget it, let alone trust this person again!’

I will end this blog with an african saying:

‘We start as fools and become wise through experience’

Love… BellaThe1



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Trust, without it, you have nothing…

Insecurity makes you ugly!


Dear Neighbors,


Small word, big meaning…

Being insecure is one of the ugliest things there is. Why? Because it makes you look small. Not small in a way of being short, but small as in; ‘people can walk all over you’. Like, you’re shit on their shoes. Nobody likes to have shit on their shoes. 1, it smells and 2, it’s not easy to get rid off. In other words, insecure people are annoying AF, period!

How can you expect people to respect you, if you don’t even respect yourself? Insecure people don’t respect the way they look. If you respect the way you look, you’ll show it, as if there is nothing that can break you.

If you don’t like the way you look, change IT! Make sure YOU count! Not only for the outside world, but more important: FOR YOURSELF!

It’s not bad to feel comfortable in your shoes and to show the rest of the world that you do. However, make sure you won’t be too self-assured, like a Kim and a Kanye, those 2 live on their own “planet”. That shit, is not beautiful at all! There are people who make it a profession to make others feel insecure about themselves. Most of the time, these people are just as insecure as you are. Confident people don’t have the need to put others down to feel good.

If YOU don’t feel good about yourself, who will?? Nobody, and if you don’t love yourself, how can you make it possible for others to love you? I mean really love you! Isn’t that what we all want?


To be loved…


Love… BellaThe1

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Dear Neighbors,

I’m sorry, i’m really, really sorry. We all know these words, by using them ourselves or as an apology from someone. Someone who just did something to be sorry about.

Saying you’re sorry, does not take away the pain. It does not make the “mistake” disappear. I use quotation stabbing for the word mistake, because is it really a mistake?

If you hit me by accident or stand on my feet without noticing and you say ‘i’m sorry’, then we’re cool, but don’t be sorry for something you did on purpose. If you’re cheating on me for example, sorry is the last word i want to hear coming out of your lying mouth. You sure weren’t sorry at the moment you was enjoying your cheating ass.

If you promise me something and you didn’t come true, sorry is also out of option. Don’t you know the meaning of a promise? I will explain it to you:


‘A declaration assuring that one will or will not do something; A VOW

You COMMIT yourself in doing something (or not) for another!!

Why should you be sorry for doing something, which you already knew is hurtful to another person. Or did you had a small amnesia?

People who know that their action is gonna cause pain to someone, are not really sorry. Yes, sorry because they got caught. So in that case, you’re sorry to yourself i guess.

So next time, if you are planing to just “being sorry”, ask yourself:

Would I be okay with it? Cause remember…


What goes around…


Love… BellaThe1

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Dear Neighbors,

House, bells and bliss, guess that’s everyones dream when you’re little. While growing up, you’ll come to find out, it’s easier said than done.

It’s the first thing you learn to draw, a house, next to the house stands your image of a tree, in the above corner a sun and sometimes, if you got that artistic touch, some flowers. The perfect image, society teaches us, of how our life should be as we grow up. Unfortunately, getting there will not be as easy as drawing it, especially not in this lifetime.

A lot of relationships are ending. People are getting children together * some of us try this marriage thing *  and living together, but it seems that this same society who put all these perfect images in our head, is also the one who’s breaking us up. How? Pressure!

Girls want each others men and even try to get each others life. Boys are faking it till they making it, into a new pussy, cause guess what? Pussy got no face these days. If you even look like a lady, you’re good to go. How come we want what others have???

Because, the pressure is HIGH. EVERYBODY is competing, and it’s not rare cause, society is our biggest example. All these phone companies, auto-dealers, clothing lines, different products, they all compete with each other. Every one of them want to make you believe, they are or they got, the best for YOU.

So it’s in our system, that if you want something and get something, you need to get the BEST! So that’s what we are looking for. If your man/woman looks better or has more than anothers, you’re doomed. “Hyena’s” will be lurking.

Earlier it was mostly men who where unfaithful and not committed to what they had, but women nowadays seem to care less about men or other women and their relationship. It’s almost like men are becoming good for 1 thing only, and it’s not doing the dishes, and even that 1 thing… can be replaced for a toy (since guys are having problems with doing their “job” properly). With todays technology, i see clowned sperms in a few years. You guys know this will make you useless for a lot of fed up women, right?

So, what are we gonna teach our children? The ones who are supposed to learn from us? That…

Single is the new Marriage?

For real?

Love… BellaThe1

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Single is the new Marriage…

Depression Kills! #2

Dear Neighbors,

Depression: How do you get it? How do you get rid of it?

Everybody is able to get a depression, even children. It’s ridiculous but true. I mean, what kinda problems does a child have, to be depressed? Well, it can be everything, from being bullied to being abused, sexually, physically or mentally. Everybody who is able to stress and feel pain is able to get a depression, so yes, even you.

What causes depressions?: Of course it’s different for different people, sometimes you can even get depressed for no obvious reason, but mostly there will be triggers, like:

– being abused or bullied,
– having bad historical experiences with family or friends,
– mental illness,
– arguments, seperations or divorce,
– poor self esteem,
– someone who leaves your daily life,
– stress,
– not being able to open up and talk to others, or have people around you who you can trust,
– being in dept,
– feeling lonely,
– letting others put you down.

So all these triggers can put someone in a depression, but there are also chronic illnesses that can depress someone, like: heart disease, back pain and cancer.

How do you get rid of it?

So here is this bitch, who likes you to feel helpless and not in control. The only way to get back control over your life, is to make a movement. If it’s not a visit to your doctor, take a walk around the block, go to the gym or go to a musea for god sake, do whatever you’re good at. It’s a MUST, that you leave your house and do something active. If you don’t want to do it alone, ask a friend with you. If you don’t have friends, search for a support group. You’ll be amazed by how many people are feeling just like you.

A visit to your doctor is the most obvious first thing you need to do. Especially when you got insurance. You’re already paying them every month to get you guys better, don’t get it twisted. The doctor will ask you about what, why and since when. Together you should figure out a way to manage your symptoms and doctors have a wide range of treatments, as well medical and non-medical.

A few things you could be doing yourself to help you get rid of a depression:

Raise your self-esteem, the way you think about yourself is a big trigger for depressions. Someone who’s depressed will feel worthless and will think in a negative way all the time. You start to neglect yourself and this makes you feel uglier than ever. Do you think your self-esteem is low, visit, to read about things you can do to increase your self-esteem.

Having people around you is also a must! Go visit a friend or your family, those are the people you should be able to talk to when you’re feeling down. If you don’t have friends or family, go on Social Media to keep in touch with the outside. Search on Google for local groups or forums who talks about your problem. You’ll be surprised on what you can find on Google.

Don’t let responsibilities overwhelm you. Ask for help when it`s already starting to feel like it’s getting too much. If it’s at work, talk to the health department or your boss. If it’s financial, search up information about having depth. Every City got his department for that, because guess what? Money problems are EVERYWHERE.

Make sure you keep a routine in your daily life. Like work, or work outs or backing cakes (could be fun). A feeling of achieving something, is good for your mental health. Being active also gives you more energie, this way you don’t want to sleep all the time.

There are different types of depression. After a pregnancy you can get in a Postpartum Depression for example. You can also suffer from Bipolar Disorder, this gives you mood changes from another level. Did you know that even the change of seasons, can get people depressed? If you want to read more about these 3 and other kinds of depression, visit:

Having a depression is not weird neighbors, it could happen to everyone, but it does not have to KILL. It’s not uncommon that people who suffer from a depression have thoughts about suicide. People who are suicidal only live at that moment. That moment, when you think there’s no other way out than by killing yourself. It’s not that these people don’t want to live anymore, but they just want the pain to stop. Suicidal people actually want to be heard. They don’t need judgement and a sermon. They need affection and love, someone who listens and understands. Someone who looks at them and says: ‘I’m here and i care.’


Since depression is something not likely to beat alone, it’s important for people, to be open for others in trouble. And for those who are in trouble: ‘Don’t be ashamed, you’re not alone.’ Communication is the key! We need to care and help more, because you’ll never know:…


When the “Bitch” is coming to your house!



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Depression Kills!


Dear Neighbors,

Have you ever felt like everything you do, goes wrong? Is this feeling ever been so bad that you start thinking about things you can do, that might stop this suffocating feeling? The feeling of not beeing able to breath and that elephant you’re carrying on your back seems to get bigger and bigger every day. It might feel like your end of the road is nearby, but wait…..

It’s not too late.

Depression… It’s a feeling caused by difficulty. Difficulty in life, who seems to take over your mind, body and soul. Everybody got these days, that you’re feeling sad and useless, once in a while. But what if the days becomes weeks and the weeks becomes months? This might be something bigger than just a sadness. Depression is getting underestimated and not always taken serious. People who got a depression don’t seem to notice this and because of the ignorance, it’s difficult for the people around you, to notice something is wrong with you.

Symptoms of depression:

  • a hopeless and helpless feeling (more than 2 weeks)
  • lack of interest in normal activity and other people
  • negative thoughts take over your mind and shuts down positive thinking
  • feeling like your bed is your best friend and you don’t want to leave it or you might not get any sleep at all
  • You can’t concentrate on easy tasks like watching tv or do the dishes
    feeling guilty and unnecessary
  • being irritable, short-tempered, or more aggressive than usual
  • eating too much or not at all
  • consuming more alchohol than normal or even using drugs
  • feeling like your life is a big burden and you got the desire to leave it….

I don’t know if it’s a feeling of shame that prevent people from asking for help. Or wait… I DO know it’s a feeling of shame. Why? Because people are too judgmental about one other. We are living like we don’t care about each other and all we do is point fingers. We need to stop being selfish and with our nose all up in our phones all the time (for example), because there might be someone standing next to you who’s “screaming”  for your help. I want to write more about depressions, like how you can get it and what you can do about it, in my next blog. ‘I think it’s something that needs to get more attention, because a lot of people are suffering from it in silence.’


Dear neighbors a baby who wants something or needs something makes noise,


why can’t you?


Love BellaThe1

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I hate Dating!

Dear Neighbors,

If there is anything awkward on this planet it’s dating! Especially the first date. Not to talk about the blind date.

Blind dates:

This is the kind of dating i do NOT like AT ALL! I know in advance that when i go on a first date, with someone i’ve never seen before, this person is gonna see immediately how i feel about his looks. The expression on my face will tell it all (that lil’bitch)!! Imagine you going on a blinddate, which your friends set you up with. You already know your friends taste of men, so either you gonna be excited or you’ll get anxious.

If he’s good-looking it could be interesting, but if he’s not…. You’ll be thinking in your head – over and over again- while he is talking about his sorry life (at least you think it’s sorry because you’re not listening) – how you gonna kill this friend – who got the nerves – to even think – you might be ok with this.

Are you still following me? In other words, if you’re going on a blinddate, be prepared to either love someone, or kill someone (your friend)!

First dates:

First dates are nerve wrecking. You already get to know this person a little bit, but this doesn’t makes it easier. With a first date you got other issues, like:

  • Does he/ she looks the same as the image you have in your head?
  • How will the conversation go?
  • Will there be awkward moments, like silence?
  • Does he/ she smells good? (very important)
  • Will he/ she likes you?
  • Is my hair still looking fine?
  • What if i have something in my nose?
  • Do i have something between my teeth?

And so and so. It’s terrible, for real. I don’t like to be in this position, although i know a date is very needed to be starting something.

My advice for first dates or blind dates, is to go to a public place and have a drink. It’s fast and after your first drink, you can decide to stay or to leave. It’s not decent to leave early while having dinner or watching a movie. Sometimes a first date, can’t give you a good impression of someone. You might be both nerves and acting both Steve Urkel. I advice you women, also not to be picked up at your house. What if you don’t like the guy and he decides, that you’ll be his future wife? Before you know, you got your personal doorman.

I don’t know how you guys think about dating, but to me…


Dating is an annoying, awkward and a too much energy costing occurrence!! But hey… that’s my opinion. :-)


Love… BellaThe1

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your first time

Your First time..

Dear Neighbors,

Do you remember “IT”? With “it”i mean IT!

Your first time…

How is it that when someone ask me: Do you remember that time we blablabla? I’m like uhmmm No i really don’t, but if you ask me about my first time,…. i can tell you the when, with who (obviously lol) and the PAIN i felt. That shit is unforgettable.

God created the female body as weird as could be. How is it that the same spot, you can get so much joy from, can hurt so bad? I’ve seen some jokes online about the fact that we suffer more because of the Adam and Eve adventure, but come on! I didn’t ask Eve to be greedy with the apple.
Why do we all have to suffer from that? Others say that the female body is made to manage more pain, simple because a man couldn’t handle it. I can see why they say that, cause: ‘Have you ever looked at a man who’s sick?’ It’s like the dude is dying, for real no joke (crybabies).

Anyway, about the first time. The first time for a man is the most simple task he will get in life. It mostly happens on an early age, with a female who is a few years older. The guy will do his clumsy thing for 30 seconds and voila, he just lost his virginity.

For females on the other hand the interaction takes a lot more effort. I will not tell you all the details about what happens with the female body parts, but i will tell you: It’s an unpleasant happening. When i lost my virginity at the age of 18, all i was thinking at that moment was: ‘Are we done yet?’ I don’t know about other females but my first time was NOT pleasant, at all!! It was the love that kept me there, or else i would probably be gone with the wind, in 2 seconds.

I think the first time, for all females, should really be with someone you love, cause you might get a little “traumatized” by it. I’m not trying to scare the Virgins off, not at all, cause the first time will be the first step to a whole new adventure. So don’t worry, it might not feel great at first….


But it WILL get better. 😉


Love… BellaThe1

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the past

The past!

Dear Neighbors,

Obviously a relationship takes a lot of effort. You got two people, two thoughts, two experiences and a lot of trouble lurking around the corner, ready to interrup.

To keep a relationship working there are a lot of do’s and don’ts. Today i will write about a big DON’T!

Almost everybody gets into a relationship with a past. Except with your first love. That’s another ‘fairytale gone bad’- story. I admire people who really get to the ‘ till death do us part‘ end with their first love, cause that’s dope!

Anyway, when you starting to like someone, first things first, the investigation! All men and women investigate their soon to be partner. Don’t worry, questions will be asked about you. If you already asked around or winkle out his/her life by observing their online actions, you can make a decisions for yourself to make this person a part of your future, or not.

If you start a new relationship it supposed to be a fresh start, right? Then why is it that as soon as we feel comfortable enough, we start asking questions about the past? Especially women feel the need to be asking about: ‘with Who, When and how Many. DON’T!

If you DO want to know all the “dirt” about someones past, you’ll have to face some problems who will come with it, because almost every default you’ll have with this person, will remind you about the “negative”.

You see to many times, that someones past take control over their future. This make people either end up back at square 1 again or arguing a lot. It’s after a failed relationships you’ll get to realize, how many discussions you had where someones past was brought up. We call someones past “The Past“for a reason, you know.

Really people, why do we wanna know about how many fucks was giving and with who? You already know you’re not gonna like the answers. People will always lie about their past anyway. ‘What you don’t know, will not kill you‘, they say.


My advice for every single one of you is:


Don’t let someones “failed” past ruin YOUR present!


Love… BellaThe1

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